Say you are a Feminist in Conservative circles and you are likely to get a lot of looks and raised eyebrows. I still maintain that it is up to my generation of women (and the one following us) to reclaim Feminism. There are also people who insist that the God of the Bible is some kind of sexist bigot, but that cannot be further from the truth. God has always recognized the role and power of women, after all, He is the one that calls us a “helpmeet” and the He calls Himself a “Help”… guess what, in Hebrew they are from the same root word. A weak thing with no worth cannot help anyone.
Proverbs 14:1 The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands. I really like this particular verse because it shows some very important concepts that are often quibbled over in Christendom. For example, it shows that we have free will, even women. If we did not truly have free will, could God tell us that a foolish woman tears down her very own house with her own hands? Without free will that would make no sense for a bit of wisdom that we are supposed to learn from and implement; be wise, not foolish.
Another aspect to this verse to note is that we women do the building up. I build my house. I do so by what I choose to put my faith in, and Who I choose to put my faith in. I do so by my work ethic. I do so by the way I treat my guests, my self-respect, my morality, my choice of mates, my choice of friends, how I handle my money, etc… I do that, not my husband, nor my father, nor my pastor. Do I spend all my time on Facebook? Do I spend it with my nose in the latest tabloid or watching TV 24 hours a day? Do I have friends that truly care about me and care about the Lord, or do they just care about gossip? Am I taking care of my house, my spouse, my family or am I letting the world take care of them? Do I keep track of the money, the expenses, the investments, or do I let my husband do all of that?
Have we taught our daughters, nieces, friends, etc… that their choice of spouse is extraordinarily important, and that there are certain factors other than how “cute” a guy is to consider when building your home? And to any males who have read this article this far; have YOU took a good hard look at what God desires for you to have in a wife? Are you willing to let your wife truly be a help to you, while at the same time being a good, kind, respectful, loving, strong leader in your home? We are to be like a team of oxen in marriage; equally yoked and watching out for one another, each pulling the load.
And, of course, the number one issue; have I built my house on Jesus Christ? He is the sure foundation and the only thing that cannot be moved. Have I trusted Him, do I talk to the Lord, do I read and study His word? I need to make sure I have built my house on Him and not trusted someone else to do that for me. So your husband is the bible expert? Fantastic… but his faith isn’t yours. Do you know why you believe on Jesus? Do you have a personal relationship with God and not just one that is attached to someone else’s faith?
Anywho, dear readers, just some passing thoughts and questions…